The “simple and cheap divorce” is a myth.
Even simple divorces require work, such as divorce decrees that tie-up all lose ends (effective enforcement language, any one?) and post-divorce property transfer documents (deeds, notifications for COBRA, promissory notes, to name a few) to make those decrees work. And cheap divorces should include money spent wisely.
I write should because the “cheap divorce” really refers to two divorces -- the cost-effective divorce and the avoided-costs divorce. Unfortunately, in pursuit of the cost-effective divorce, and under the mistaken belief that their wives are paying less and have, therefore, somehow “won the case,” too many men make major mistakes when it comes to their money – the very thing they are trying to avoid.
Make these mistakes, and your “simple and cheap divorce” will cost you a fortune:
1. SHE HAS TO PAY HALF THE DEBT, RIGHT?
Most jurisdictions apply a rule called “equitable distribution” or “equitable division” to divide assets and debt. The rule sounds an awful lot like “equal” division, and, sometimes, it is. For example, retirement accounts (usually, the husband’s) that accrued during the marriage are divided equally between ex-spouses. However, the same is not true for debt. “Equitable” really means, do what is fair, and, for debt, that usually means the spouse who earns more pays more. Do not go racking up a credit card bill with the assumption that your wife will be responsible for one-half the balance. If she earns less than you, she won’t.
2. THE INHERITANCE IS TO ME, NOT US
If you received an inheritance, you might think all of it is yours – after all, your name appears in your generous great-aunt-somebody’s will, not your wife’s. Not necessarily. In general, any property you acquire between the date of your marriage and the date of your divorce is considered marital property eligible for division (for those of you living in community property jurisdictions, the same rule usually applies). An inheritance might be your separate property, but only if you did not commingle it with marital property or treat it as marital property during your marriage. And that is tough to do. Imagine receiving an inheritance of $20,000 and just leaving it in an account, in your name only, sitting there, and not touching it at any time during your marriage. Most spouses don’t, especially in our economy. If you used that inheritance during the marriage, if you added it to a joint bank account, or even if the divorce court believes your wife needs a share of it, that inheritance is not yours – it’s your wife’s, too. The best thing to do, if you receive an inheritance, is title the property in your name only, deposit the money into an account bearing your name only, and do nothing but leave it alone – until you are safely divorced.
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