WHEN GOOD DIVORCES GO BAD: Three Things You Can’t Afford NOT To Do Before You Divorce

 

 

The clouds literally parted and cast sunlight unto the Detroit skyline. I can’t believe I’m divorced – that was easier than I thought it would be he said as we walked out of the courthouse together, newly signed divorce decrees in hand, humming the first few bars of Sunshiny Day.

 

You might not be signing songs. You might not be planning your first trip as ex-husband and ex-spouse,  complete with new spouses and matching Hawaiian shirts. Heck, you might be counting the days before you can move out of your house, without your attorney yelling at you, with your stuff in tow and your ex left in the dust. But, your divorce was not the tragedy your buddies scared you into believing it would be, your ex and your ex’s attorney did not drain every dime from you like friends threatened would, and you’re divorcing with some money in your pocket and a decent size retirement account to boot. Overall, your divorce is good.

 

Good for you. But not so fast. If you’re like most newly divorcing folks, there are three things you’ve probably forgotten to do that will make your good divorce go bad.   

 

You Forgot the Tax Professional

Spend a little extra cash now and have your tax professional review your decree before you sign it.        Tax law, like divorce law, is a specialized area of practice. It is also an evolving area of law, and you will want the most accurate, current information available. You will not offend your attorney, and, if you have a good attorney, your attorney will consult a tax professional with you. We want to make sure our clients take advantage of tax benefit and avoid tax consequences whenever possible.

 

If you do not, the consequences could be costly. Consider this. Transfers of property between spouses or former spouses incident to their divorce are generally tax free. See IRC 1041. This means the transferor spouse does not have to report a discharge of indebtedness, nor the transferee spouse income, for the transfer when filing the tax return for the year of the transfer. This does not mean, however, that there are no tax consequences. Under IRC 1041, the transferee spouse takes the transferor spouse’s basis and holding period in the property. When the transferee spouse disposes of the property, the transferee spouse pays taxes on the entire disposition. This is, in a sense, a delayed tax. For example, if during the divorce each spouse agreed to be responsible for 50% of their stock’s $50,000 appreciation, if this language is not included in the divorce decree, after divorce the burden is 100% the transferee spouse’s.

 

The most important thing for you to do is plan ahead. Have you tax professional review the final draft of your decree before you sign it, and ask for a thorough assessment from a tax perspective. It is better to pay for these services now than to find out, ten years from now, that you have to report $50,000 of gain. The court will not listen to you complain that you did not anticipate the tax consequences. As the Michigan Court of Appeals said of an ex-husband making that argument, “His claim regarding unexpected income taxes is, of course, without merit. He either knew, or should have known, of the income tax consequences of his actions. . . .” Couzens v Couzens, 140 Mich App 423; 364 NW2d 340 (1985). [1]

 

 

You Forgot the Appraiser

Appraise your home and personal property – the couple bucks and a few hours’ intrusion in your home could mean a couple thousand extra dollars in your pocket. Do not assume that a bad economy means your home has no equity – we’ve received appraisals indicating homes with equity of $60,000 and more. Moreover, every item of personal property has a value. Yes, in isolation the value may be small ($5 for all of the plants, $20 for the yard tools), but, combined, they add up! A fully furnished, three bedroom, two bathroom home with a family computer, a washer and dryer set and a tool shed would have, even at garage sale prices, between $5,000 and $10,000 worth of personal property. Half is presumably yours, possibly thousand of dollars you would have otherwise left with your ex. You may retain                           a local auctioneer or estate salesman to appraise that property in one afternoon for a few hundred.

 

 

You Forgot the Plan Administrator

Pension division is one of the most heated areas of contention in a divorce, right behind child custody. Invest in a good pension valuation now, and contact your plan administrator for sample orders and required language to divide that pension, so that you know how much and what you are working with. Ideally, your judge will sign the order to divide your pension right along with your divorce decree – otherwise, trying to prepare that tedious order after your divorce will have your divorce lingering on and on and on like a bad movie that never ends.  

 

If you are entitled to a share of your spouse’s retirement account and the account is ERISA-covered, do not rely on your decree to effectively divide it. ERISA applies to private tax-qualified pension, profit sharing, and stock bonus plans, including defined benefit pension plans, 401(k) plans, money purchase pension plans, and employee stock ownership (ESOP) plans, but not government and church plans unless those plans elect ERISA coverage. If ERISA applies to the plan, then the plan administrator cannot alienate and divide the account unless and only as provided in a Qualified Domestic Relations Order, which you have probably heard referred to as a “QDRO.” A QDRO is a court order that creates or recognizes the existence of an alternate payee (your ex-spouse)’s rights to receive all or a portion of the plan benefits. The QDRO must also include, at a minimum, the name and the last known address for the payee and the alternate payee, the amount or percentage to pay the alternate payee, the manner of payment, the number or duration of payments and each plan to which the order applies.

 

This may seem simple, but the key is the phrase “at a minimum.” Under ERISA, plan administrators may reject a proposed QDRO even after the court has signed it if it does not comply with ERISA or the administrator’s requirements. As a matter of federal preemption, the plan administrator holds this power over your judge.

 

It is common for attorneys and plan administrators to go back-and-forth, for months, revising the QDRO to the administrator’s liking. To avoid the time lost and fees incurred, be sure your attorney has contacted the administrator early in your case. Request sample QDROs from the administrator. Investigate all of the plan benefits. Are there early retirement benefits, for example, and will you be entitled to them? If so, what language do you need to include in your QDRO? Ask your attorney whether a QDRO preparation service will be more efficient and less costly than the attorney’s work to prepare the QDRO. If possible, have the administrator review and pre-approve the QDRO before you submit it to your court for signing as an order. If you do not have an attorney, you will be responsible for these tasks.

 

 

In other words, for a few hours one day with your tax professional, an afternoon with your appraiser and   a phone call and letter or two with your pension plan administrator, you could save yourself thousands.

 

And who wouldn’t be singing Sunshiny Day after that? 

[1] You should contact a tax attorney and/or your tax advisor for a thorough assessment of the tax laws applicable to you. IRS Circular 230 Disclosure: To ensure compliance with requirements imposed by the IRS, be advised that any federal tax advice contained in this article was not intended or written to be used, and cannot be used, for the purpose of (i) avoiding penalties under the Internal Revenue Code or (ii) promoting, marketing or recommending to another party any transaction or matter addressed herein. Always consult a specialist for thorough tax advice.

MY SPOUSE HAS A SUBSTANCE ABUSE PROBLEM – NOW WHAT?


If you feel like your life is an episode of Intervention, except your spouse refuses to acknowledge her problem, let alone accept treatment, you are not alone.


While, nationwide, the prevalence of abuse of alcohol and controlled substance declined last year, the number of adults obtaining treatment, voluntarily or involuntarily, rose. On the one hand, this means more adults are obtaining treatment, which necessarily relieves the stressors causing divorce in a good number of them. On the other hand, the numbers are not that great. Nonmedical use of prescribed medications became the second prevalent drug use category, with marijuana remaining the first despite recent laws that legalized some amount of previously illegal use. Alcohol binges were a close third and were the dominant category for substance abuse that featured a suicide attempt or suicidal thoughts. According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration’s Results from the 2010 National Survey on Drug Use and Health for the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, the number of individuals needing treatment for abuse of at least one substance was 7.9% of the total population               age eighteen or older, and that rise of people obtaining treatment was only to 6.3% of the 7.9% --  in other words, a few. Substance abuse remained a problem dealt with mainly in the home, or, more often, not at all.


Anecdotally, this is the trend we see in our offices. While more clients come to us having gone through treatment personally or supported their spouse through treatment, most refuse to discuss the problem or treatment. Many have gone years keeping their or their spouse’s problem hidden from family and friends, sometimes out of disappointment or apathy, but most often out of confusion over the causes, the options for treatment and how both affect their marriage. Add to this the confusion of the divorce process, and none are willing to have the problem featured in their divorce – preferring, instead, to keep it as just that, an undefined “problem” to brush aside and deal with later.


That’s a mistake. Here are the key things you should do, and those you shouldn’t, when substance abuse if a part of your case.


Don’t rush to conclusions. Substance use and substance abuse are two different things. Of course, no illegal use is a good use, but there is quite a difference between a single use in a moment of bad judgment and a chronic daily use. The former is likely to result in a reprimand from your judge and an order for counseling and/or parenting classes, and the later, abuse, could lead to loss of custody or parental rights. But don’t rush to conclusions. Judges vary by state, county and day, when it comes to how much “use” is tolerable. Nor is the chance that your judge is more lenient a license for you to “party” occasionally. The fact remains, if either parent is using a substance illegally, that will become part of your case, and, at a minimum, you will pay your (and possibly your spouse’s) lawyer to argue why it should or shouldn’t affect your rights. More importantly, before you bring this problem to the judge’s attention, pause and consider, with your lawyer, whether the use or abuse is a symptom of a deeper problem in your marriage, such as domestic violence, and whether that problem coming to light will make you look like the bad guy. Don’t assume you spouse loses for having a problem and – like that! – your case is over and you win, because, most of the time, it isn’t and you won’t.

Speak with a specialist before staging an “intervention.” Though your life might feel like an episode of Intervention¸ you should not stage your own intervention without thoroughly discussing your options with a substance abuse specialist. If you do not know one or cannot afford one, contact your local office of community health for a referral. You will want to know, at a minimum, whether an intervention is appropriate. If so, you will want to know how to go about it and who to have present. Be cautious of the “display” you create, because your actions are admissible into court against you. If you go overboard in front of family and friends – and, worse, your children – your judge will hear about it. Be sure to have a timeline for any treatment you offer and your spouse accepts, and documentation to preserve your assets and protect your children in the meantime. This would include orders for temporary parenting time and releases for you to make your children’s medical, educational and other important life decisions. Finally, be sure to have a back-up plan if the intervention is unsuccessful, such as an emergency motion hearing to establish or modify child custody or alimony, and keep your lawyer in the loop.


Discuss your legal options and your timing. Similarly, talk to your lawyer early and often about the options available to your family within the courthouse. Many courts have specialized drug treatment programs that are available at no or a low cost to families. These programs may go hand-in-hand with parenting classes, family counseling and psychological evaluations, and they may or may not allow the abusing parent immunity from criminal sanctions so long as       the parent completes the program successfully. Your lawyer will know what programs are available to you. You may have to request an emergency hearing at the outset of your case or when  you discover the abuse to address your children and your assets immediately, as well. Be sure to strategize with your lawyer so that you make the best use of your time at the right time. Generally, emergency motions for child custody or to restrain assets should occur at the beginning of your case because a judge is likely to tell you You put up with it for months, so what’s the problem now? if you let the abuse continue and do nothing. However, you may want to work with your spouse and your spouse’s lawyer to obtain treatment outside of court for relatively minor abuse so that the entire problem does not become a public record or trigger your spouse to use more or reject treatment altogether. These are decisions you and your lawyer must make early and often in your case.

   

Know the laws and policies in your court. You may have heard or read about spouses obtaining drug tests easily, but do not expect it to be easy in your case. Although some judges order them upon request (rightly or wrongly), in most States you must prove that the person to be tested has a physical or mental health condition in issue and that the test is needed to settle that issue. This could be proof by a preponderance of evidence (meaning, it is more likely than not) and have photographs and recordings to prove your case, but, most often, it is proof by clear, convincing evidence (meaning, almost certain). Talk to your lawyer about the kinds of evidence you will need, and how to obtain it legally, and how difficult your judge is to persuade. Also talk to your lawyer about your judge’s policies if you do make your case – Will you have to pay the costs of the test? Will you also be tested? Will the tests be a part of a public record? How likely is it you or your spouse can challenge the test as inaccurate? Many guys are surprised to find out that they have to pay for their spouse’s test, and submit to one themselves, only to have the tests come back showing that they too have a substance abuse problem or a mental or physical health problem.

 

 

 

Think ahead – what is best for your family? Don’t let the prospect of short-term success in your case overshadow the long-term effect of substance abuse on your family. What will your spouse get out of treatment, and what will your parenting time schedule be during and after? What relationship do you want your children to have with your spouse during and after? How will you achieve that relationship? How will you preserve your assets? Will you obtain a guardianship over your spouse so that she does not spend her money on drugs and alcohol? Do you want a relationship with your spouse during and after treatment?


If substance abuse is a problem in your marriage, ask yourself this: Is your marriage truly over, or is this a hurtle your family can overcome? Divorce may be the quick and easy out, but it may not be the right option for your family. And if divorce is the right option, for these reasons, you must handle the problem carefully – your children and your assets depend on it.